Phases of dating and courtship
It’s not even necessarily about doing things from a ‘bad’ place (although there are some incredibly shady people who employ ‘ghosting’ so that they never face consequences and instead press the reset button); it’s about doing things from a place where fear, cowardice or excessive concern about how we look or our discomfort, trumps integrity and compassion.
I’ve talked to a number of ghosters and all reason that they didn’t want to hurt the person’s feelings. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to work out that granted, feelings do get hurt in a breakup but disappearing It’s about control, as in attempting to feel in control of the situation in their head rather than having to deal with an unpredictable foreign object like another human who they’ve made plans, promises, exchanged bodily fluids with, and inferred all manner of things via the interaction.
acquired trait: A phenotypic characteristic, acquired during growth and development, that is not genetically based and therefore cannot be passed on to the next generation (for example, the large muscles of a weightlifter).
adaptive landscape: A graph of the average fitness of a population in relation to the frequencies of genotypes in it.
Peaks on the landscape correspond to genotypic frequencies at which the average fitness is high, valleys to genotypic frequencies at which the average fitness is low. adaptive logic: A behavior has adaptive logic if it tends to increase the number of offspring that an individual contributes to the next and following generations.
Chances are that if they ever tell anyone, they'll inevitably be asked, "Have you tried... " This story is familiar to many real-life minorities, one prominent example being the queer/LGBT community, so it's not that surprising that it's so often used in fiction.
If it's at all possible, they hide their differences away from everyone else to fit in. A subculture, upholding a masquerade of being normal by day, but living out a secret lifestyle out-of-view.